
This months Short Talk Bulletin was written by Bro. Zelwin
H. Eaton, P M. of Adair Lodge #366,
Kirksville, Missouri, who is also a member of the Grand Lodge of Missouri
Committee on Masonic Education. Bro. Eaton is an administrator at Northeast
Missouri State University. We appreciate his comments on how to conduct an
interview with an applicant for Masonic membership.
After the reception of a petition, the single most
important event in the life of a Masonic Lodge is the function performed by the
committee on investigation. It is impossible for every member of a lodge to
personally know all of the potential petitioners to the lodge. In these days of
declining membership, the Brothers who sign the petition of a prospective member
may be blinded by friendship, a concern for the shrinking membership of their
lodge or, very simply, they may not have sufficient concern for their lodge to
see beyond the surface of the potential initiate whose petition they are
signing.
It is the duty of the committee appointed by the Master to
be unbiased by improper solicitations and uninfluenced by mercenary motives of
Brothers, well meaning friends, and relatives of the prospect. The committee
must seek the truth about the depth of the character of all whom they
investigate. Just as importantly, they must consider the financial circumstances
of the petitioner, the organizations he is already involved in, the kind of
company he keeps, the reputation he has in the community, in his work place, and
with the general public he comes in contact with every day.
The above answers can be obtained very simply. Ask
questions, lots of them, of everyone it is possible to contact. Start out by
talking to the Brothers who signed his petition. Ask them why they signed his
petition. Require answers beyond, “He asked me to”. Find out what they really
know about him, how long they have known him, who introduced them to him and
why. Ask them for names of people they know who are associated with the
petitioner or know him personally.
Go to the men who the petitioner gave as his references.
First, see if they knew they were being used as references, then find out why
they think they were given as references. What commitments do they have about
the petitioner? Are there any ties that would suggest their assessments of his
character would not be completely honest and straight forward? What would they
have to gain by his membership in a world wide Fraternity? Note carefully the
responses to your questions. Are they given quickly, in a straight forward
manner while they look you in the eye, or are their hesitations, shuffling of
feet, and side wise glances. Do they give you a long detailed answer and say
nothing or is the answer brief and to the point, clearly answering your inquiry?
If you get too many evasive answers, take this as a sure indication the
committee needs to dig further and ask more probing questions.
The last step in the process of investigating a prospective
candidate should be the personal interview with the petitioner in his home, WITH
HIS FAMILY PRESENT. Note carefully, does the petitioner welcome you
unhesitatingly into his home. Does his wife greet you warmly and make a genuine
attempt to make you feel at home or is she merely tolerating your presence? Any
one who is expected to spend many hours and a sum of money with a Fraternal
organization must have the support, with little or no reservation of his wife
and family. Any man who is torn between two commitments, especially when one is
wife and family, is going to solve his problem by negating one of his
commitments and it is likely to be the Fraternity. Spending many hours
initiating a man, teaching him the ritual, and developing a reliance on his
contributions to the lodge is a useless expenditure of time and money if there
is doubt from the beginning that he will be a committed member.
Now to the most important part of the committee’s work, the
interview in the home. Obviously, there will be as many settings for the home
interview as their are homes in which interviews are conducted, so we will speak
in terms of the ideal interview setting.
Good manners dictate that you will interview the petitioner in the room
of the house into which he invites you. This will probably be the room he and
his wife feel most comfortable in or are most proud of. If possible, however,
conduct your interview in the living room or the family room. Try to stay away
from the dining room or kitchen. The living room is less likely to have
distractions. If there is a TV, if at all possible get it turned off. You do not
want to compete with a soap opera or Monday night football. By the way, make it
a rule not to ask for an appointment to visit with the petitioner when there is
the obvious possibility of a conflict. In other words, don’t schedule interviews
on Monday night during football season. Neither the petitioner’s heart nor his
mind are likely to be on the interview, and yours probably won’t be there
either!
Always have three members of the investigating committee
present for the interview with the petitioner. The chairman of the committee
should assume the leadership role in the interview and should ask the major
portion of the questions. The second man on the committee should join in
answering any questions the petitioner or his wife might have, watch the
petitioner for his reactions to questions, and basically act as a resource
person. The third man on the committee should spend the majority of his efforts
observing the reactions of the petitioner’s wife and any other members of the
family that may be present. This man should pay particular attention to the
wife. She, in the opinion of the author, is the key to the husband’s retention
in the Masonic Fraternity.
Observe closely her reactions to questions and to the
general conversation and make careful mental notes of her reactions. At
appropriate pauses in the flow of the interview, attempt to address any concerns
the wife might have that have become evident by her responses or reactions. I
define responses here almost entirely in terms of body language. It is unlikely
that she will verbally object to her husband’s interest in the fraternity in
front of the committee. However, she may very likely show her feelings strongly
by her nonverbal reactions. This is the time to address her concerns and/or
reservations. Do not wait until her husband has spent both money and time with
the Fraternity. Waiting will allow opinions and feelings to solidify and become
irreversibly set.
At the same time, don’t forget the petitioner. If he
displays adverse reactions at any time during the interview, use this as a key
that the committee needs to explore the topic under discussion in greater depth
or reassure the petitioner of the support, friendship, and brotherhood the lodge
extends to its, about to become, newest member.
The chairman of the committee should control the time spent
on the interview and should not overstay the committee’s welcome. He should be
aware of any signs of restlessness on the part of any of the participants and,
should the interview become lengthy, he should take steps to bring it to a
smooth and natural conclusion. The chairman should poll his committee prior to
closing by asking, in an offhand manner, if he has neglected to mention anything
important and/or ask if anyone has a final comment he would like to make or a
final question he would like to ask. This will give the third member of the
committee a natural opportunity to address any problems he has observed, if he
has not had an opportunity to do so up to that point.
The petitioner and his wife should be asked if they have
any final questions or observations they would like to make before the committee
departs in order to consider their recommendations on the petition.
In closing, the author would like to remind investigating
committees that they too are being observed by the petitioner and his family.
Their body language and responses can also be easily read. If the committee
members rush through their questions, shift about in their chairs, drum their
fingers on the arm of their chair or sit with their toes pointing toward the
door, they will communicate, unconsciously, their lack of interest in their
mission and their obvious desire to be somewhere else, doing something else.
Dress also plays a part in the impression the lodge and the
Fraternity will make on the petitioner and his family. Dress appropriately, but
don’t either overdress for the interview or underdress. Make it obvious that
care has been taken to make a good impression. This will tell the petitioner and
his family, in a subtle way, that the lodge members are proud of their
fraternity and are particular about who gains admission to its society and its
customs.
One final thought. Do not neglect to extend the right hand of friendship to the petitioner and his family prior to departing from their home. A warm and friendly grip is the one form of body language, when used in conjunction with a sincere smile, that overcomes reservations and encourages a positive relationship.